You have to love me.

"All are lunatics, but that analyzes his madness, is called a philosopher." [Ambrose Bierce]
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 Thinkers developed a number of definitions for "philosopher". And it is a philosopher in all of them without being defined by any.

Philosopher is he who opens wide his soul [mind], speaks his mind and not think about what was agreed.

Because everyone has a philosophy, but few are philosophers. Clearly everyone can not just quit thinking.

Philosophy is nothing more than how you act toward life, his modus operandi, his "program." Some wonder, WHY AM I DOING THIS?

Others will simply acting in a pattern, the pattern is not always wrong, in most cases it has a meaning, a reason took the philosopher wonders if the default is not the expiry date.

Suppose your husband [or wife] wants to take a trip without you what your first thought?

He will betray me, wants to take a break, got tired of me, this ready, you know that's the kind of ride that I do not like it, go with it anyway, I'll also make my trip ...

I'll have to be compact, maybe some can not keep up, but we'll try.

You're wondering why he's doing this, this [say] "philosophizing" and the other filosofando.Vamos not assume that my wife wants to stay 20 days away from me. If for some reason she did not give a reasonable explanation in weeks what are the chances in a 2-hour discussion about the relationship I hear something favorable to "my desire"?

A philosopher "should" [only suggestion] look inside yourself and find out what the "desire", realize that the analysis now turns to me first?

Maybe I also want to stay away from my wife for 20 days, this is my wish and if both want the same thing there is no reason to fight or creating difficulties.

The situations are endless and you can not enter for all, but let's assume that my desire is that my wife does not travel, does not want to stay away from her.

Of course, I have to tell you that she would rather not be, but it would be logical to forbid her to go?

I think my friend was Confucius who said that the more shake the water, the more it slips through your fingers. We have that supports it to quench our thirst.

If I like my wife and she wants to get out of the routine for 20 days, maybe miss, I do not see how you can still enjoy holding your love!

Yeah, she might never come back, but turn signal is still like me, our good relationship is still possible. If not go back now, the love was gone even ...

I see people who are passionate about their partner (a), no longer able to imagine life without him however force the bar in such a way that only increase the gap, creating gaps that prevent the affection and respect can still be part of relationship.

If you examined if "self philosophize" and found that the relationship end is you who will suffer the most, it is logical to try to be nicer. Torturing his wife may be the worst strategy unless it is masochistic.

I see the pity so many relationships that still had a great chance, but were devoured by just part of the family he loved most!!!

One becomes the other and hysterically philosophizing is like that of a series dinosaur saying ...

You have to love me!

[Love is not obliged, feel or do not feel]