About Family

"Marrying means doubling their obligations and to halve their rights."  [Schopenhauer] 
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It's true. What I do not understand is how people do not expect anything to change after marriage.

A colleague said that his marriage ended because her husband was no longer as time dating!!!

Now she says in a happier relationship and your partner is more "intense". The detail is that they have a "compromise", but do not live together and do not intend to live together. Or is this another partner has few obligations and need not divide their rights, something that my colleague nor dream allowed her husband.

Okay, when I say this is someone saying that there are couples who live eternally in love, I have not met any, but I've seen on TV.

Now there are more couples who separate [these I know in real life], then mathematically our standard should be the separation and not of eternal passion.

I notice that when a person home his first desire is to be a FAMILY, but strangely this desire is masked as a "consummation of love."

I do not know if I can be clear, I'll try.

Marriage is not the end of love, but the consummation of the desire to have a family.

Suppose you want to have a car and will choose a course that you like that fits your budget, but what you really want is to have more independence to come and go so you want to be a driver car exchange since driver remains happens that the traffic laws will not change if you have a Dodge or a Toyota.

So when you have a boyfriend it will behave as boyfriend and husband when it behaves as a husband.

When a woman has children most often they are the most important beings in her life. When I was dating my wife her love could be almost entirely devoted to me, now there's no way, two people came out of her womb and are the most special of her life. Yes, to take care of the babies had sex numerous times to take second or third plane thing that did not occur in dating today precisely because we are not lovers, we are husband and wife.

If you want your life to be an eternal dating then think ten times before getting married.

If the desire to have family pounded on his chest then already understand that marriage is not dating.

Marriage is not spoiled by its own characteristics, it is even very tasty. Having someone to share with you a project of life, a family.

The wedding is ruined because people expect him to have the characteristic of an eternal courtship which obviously you can not be, because dating has its characteristics based on a few bonds and little rights division.

My wife dating could give me a kick in the ass and then his life would play a maximum covenant of commitment to my face. Not now, I am the Father of his daughters, goods have conquered together many obligations, duties many, many rights division.

I am not just another man, I'm your man, she is my wife.

Well, our desire for a family was held, there are eternal lovers, evolved this condition, we are happily married.

If one or both of the parties insist on the priority of dating on marriage sooner or later ends up appearing a third participant, there is a dating "intense" endangering the stability of marriage.

We should seek a good marriage is to be married. Love, friendship, companionship, tract house, the plants, the animals, the children's education, fellowship of families of the couple grow old together ...

Anyway, MARRIAGE and FAMILY are great too.

Reduced because the small dimensions of a dating?

"Decipher me or I'll devour!"