Francine: Can you imagine hearing from your own mother that she regretted becoming a parent?
In other words, that she regretted giving you life? Women’s minds are becoming so twisted.
This world is seriously lacking God!
William: “We are not the measure of all things.”
I notice people understand when I express this thought, but they don’t put it into practice… don't ask me why… I’ll save that for another reflection.
The norm (the standard) is for a woman to love her children deeply. But that isn't the measure for all women.
There are those who definitely do not "feel" the desire to be mothers.
That’s where this other thought comes in:
“We don’t choose what we feel; we decide how to act based on what we feel.”
Scenario A: The woman never gets married, she’s perfectly happy just being an aunt, and everything is fine.
Scenario B: She finds a partner, he doesn't want kids either, and everything is fine.
Scenario C: She finds a partner who really wants children.
Since she wants to stay in the relationship, she has one or two kids, but without that standard maternal love.
Personally, I think it’s horrible for a mother to tell a child she regrets having them.
Whether the child was an “accident” or born out of the woman’s interest in maintaining a relationship, it's part of the “civilized” deal to avoid those kinds of comments.
But what prompted me to reply to this comment is a situation I haven't written much about.
I always say we don't choose the family we're born into.
But parents don't choose the kind of children they'll have, either.
Who doesn't know a "standard" couple who ends up with a child who is "off the rails" in the worst possible way?
I’ve known and heard of so many "problem children."
The parents raise the child with so much love, and yet by adolescence, the signs of another "deadbeat" in the world are clear.
Drugs, crime, promiscuity, aggression, laziness, rebellion without a cause…
There are normal parents who don’t say it out loud, but if they did say they regretted having a specific child…
I would understand perfectly. I’m just glad my two daughters are such lovely "spirits/personalities."
✧✧✧
.
